For mourning parents

Posted on 12. Jun, 2012 by

An inevitable part of my job is covering bad news — namely young death.

Since I started here full time in October of 2010, I’ve, unfortunately, had to cover the loss of many young lives lost — including Sam Rogers and Delaney Mancil in November 2010; Aisha Bryant two weeks ago and Saul Rodriguez last week.

Although completely tragic and downright depressing, I’ve found the silver lining in hoards of people who show support. Communities mourn together. Neighbors organize events to commemorate the young lives lost. And a sea of support seems ever apparent.

But I don’t think I could ever begin to understand how the parents of these teenagers feel. And unless I’m ever in the situation, I don’t think I can.

Sure, people empathize and demonstrate love. But ironically, as the mother of one of the aforementioned teenagers pointed out, there isn’t a centrally organized group for these mourning parents.

“There are diabetes groups, Alzheimer’s groups, cancers groups,” she wrote. “Who is here for the grieving parents of Wise County. I know talking to others is a way to heal — someone who has the same loss, the same heartache, the same fears and anxieties. The loss of a child is so devastating. It is like your heart has been ripped out and nothing can fix it … But the closest groups I’ve found are in Fort Worth.”

What would it take to start such a group here?

6 Responses to “For mourning parents”

  1. Jeane

    12. Jun, 2012

    Look up ” A hole in my heart ministry.” They meet with Mother’s who have lost a child. Maybe you could get information on how to start up a group in Wise County.

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  2. regina booth

    12. Jun, 2012

    There is a group called Compassionate Friends it is a support group for parents that have lost children. I lost my son Ausitn Booth in Jan. 2011 he was a student at Boyd til we moved to CO.

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  3. Charlett Peck

    12. Jun, 2012

    Reach out to the families in Wise County and form a group meeting together in the homes of each grieving family. Reach out and offer this maybe once a week, at a different home. Not only sharing the loss, but feel the love throughout each and every home. Maybe make it a pot luck dinner, and form a bond with each other.

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  4. Theresa Southwick

    12. Jun, 2012

    Maybe it’s time for the groups in Fort Worth to think about exanding. We have resources in Decatur that work with people going through other depression issues, why not the loss of a child. You hit the nail on the head with talking it out. I lost my son 19 years ago and that has been my saving grace, people I can talk to and I try to pay that forward with others that I have found losing their children. Nobody else can ever begin to imagine the pain of getting your heart ripped out by the loss of a child. Come on professionals, we have everything else coming to Decatur, why not this?

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  5. Carla Lambert

    12. Jun, 2012

    I agree there needs to be a group for parents that have lost their children, we have lost 2 sons and have another with a lung disease…We are not suppose to bury our children, but in reality it happens all of the time…I suppose that some of us need to get in touch with others that we know that have lost children and see if they are interested in a group like this..Everyone who has lost a child needs to be able to talk to others that have gone thru the same thing…May God bless each of you.

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  6. Dpoole

    14. Jun, 2012

    I think this is a great idea and also believe there is a need for a support group for those that have lost a loved one to suicide. It seems the number of suicides is on the rise leaving many people left behind dealing with the loss. This is a different kind of pain that only those that have experienced it understand.

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